Herald & Lantern 26 September '64 _ 55

Rx - I A/i«l _ - by Dr. Robert C. Beitman

Our column two weeks ago dealt with many cancer patients who are shunned by their friends and families. This article has brought out a tremendous number of letters from readers, with regard to their personal experiences. Here is one. which expresses the sentiments of many of you. 'Dear Dr. Beitman: I'm writing in response ^to ypur very excellent articled last week's Herald. I agree with you 100 percent about the way cancer patients are sometimes treated, as well as their reactions. The same thing, however, often happens to other chronically and seriously ill patients also. FOR INSTANCE, my uncle was very ill for several

years before be died. Along with many other problems, he also had a series of small strokes which left him partially paralyzed and unable to speak intelligibly. His mind, however, was still sharp and clear. I remember my aunt telling me that she had invited some of his close friends over for his 80th birthday and only showed up. Of course my uncle was very upset and hurt by this. Hie so-called friends told my aunt later that they didn't come because they were afraid they would be embarrassed and not know bow to act or what to say. WHEN PEOPLE did visit him, instead of speaking to him directly, they would be standing right next to him, but talk to my aunt and say, "How is be doing" or "Does he know me?" or "Does he know what's going on?" Yes, he did know exactly what was going on, and it was very upsetting to him. It's bad enough to knowthat your condition is serious or terminal, and your life-expectancy may be short, but to lose your friends first-that's the real tragedy! Since you asked for reader's opinions, I just thought I would write and give you mine." Sincerely, A.G, Wildwood

Club to Hear Talk on Herbs STONE HARBOR - Mrs. Charles C. Miller, founder and president of the Cape May Garden Club, will be the speaker at the meeting of the Stone Harbor Garden Club, Opt. 8. The meeting is ft 10 a.m. at the firehouse and Mrs. Miller, whose hfcbby is herbs, will speak on 'Herbs for Use and Delight.'' Light refreshments will be served.

f From The Principal . By Stanley Kotzen Principal, Lower Cape May Regional High School

Mark Halbruner and Christine MacDonald made the /Ul-Star team! They are National Merit Scholarship Program SemifinaHsts and among the top 15,000 young men and women* who have been honored for their outstanding academic performance on a test taken by more than one million eligible High School students in 1983. In the state of New Jersey they were among 533 youngsters selected from a total of 53,814 students from 488 schools. They are two of three young people recognized for this honor in Cape May County, and we are very proud of their accomplishment as seniors at Lower Cape May Regional High School. THE NATIONAL Merit Scholarship program will now select 5,500 finalists from all 50 states who will share in a pool of scholarship money valued at over $20 million to be awarded in the spring of 1985. Intellectual excellence does not always go unrewarded. and unrecognized. It is a specific purpose of the National Merit Scholarship Corporation to focus a public spotlight on that excellence and to encourage support for that essential segment of American youth — the academically talented. So for youngsters and parents who are searching for role models here are a couple of high school seniors at Lower Cape May Regional who have made their mark on a nationwide competition where brains and effort counted most. Christine MacDonald lives in North Cape May

and enjoys reading, drawing and playing the piano. She was in the Spring dramatic production of B lockouts last year and is completing her fourth year on the Flag Team (2nd as captain) in a Marching Band. For the second year she is an office aide, and she has been selected as a Rutgers Scholar, and Math League and Science Symposium participant. Mark Halbruner has lettered in football and baseball. He has been involved in the Key Club, the Octagon Club, the New Jersey Math League and Junior Science symposium, the National Honor Society, and the New Jersey Governor's School. He plans to major in agricultural Engineering and has hobbies that include gardening and "Trivial Pursuit." Reading those brief biographical paragraphs does not suggest that either Chris or Mark are any different in their interests and acitivities from the vast majority of our youngsters here. However, something about them is different. Maybe it is nothing more than their commitment to doing the best that tbey are capable of on the academic side of . their lives. Whatever that special, ingredient is, let each of Wir youngsters search ferMt within themselves so that next ' year and the yaW after this column will require a full page to recognize outstanding performance in the National Merit program. . We are all very proud of you, Mark and Chris — your parents, your teachers, your classmates, and your community. Best of luck in the finalist competition.

A Wave by Mary H. Heron Neptune walloped me today! He slapped me^rapped me, And just as I was about to run, He knocked me down ; I lost the sun. Dragged by my feet, Sancfscratched and sore, I struggled free To tbe solace of the shore.

Library Spade Digs In Sat .

PETERSBURG - The Ground Breaking Ceremony for the Northern Branch Library will be held on Saturday at 10 a.m., announced Tom Leonard, county library director. The site was provided by Upper Township between the athletic fields now under construction at Middle School and the township

rescue squad headquarters, Route 631. Friends for A Library has been active for several years in promoting a library in Upper Township, where population has virtually' doubled in the past decade. The 'Friends' were organized by their first president Florence Speck, succeeded this year by Dorothy Armand. Leonard has praised the 'Friends' for their interest and^strong, active support for the Northern Branch Library. The 'Friends' are grateful for the cooperation of the Tbwnship Committee, county freeholders, local organizations and residents of Dennis Township and Woodbine. The library has been eagerly anticipated by the school children who have participated in several essay and poster contests sponsored cooperatively by the county library and the 'Friends'. Some 'Friends' also held story-times in conjunction with the I Bookmobile three years ago. Total construction C06ts are estimated at $895,000, including a $260,000 federal grant administered by the state. Freeholder William E. Strum has said that opera ling monies will come from dedicated county - •library tax, not from the general county budget. The library will be a twin of the branch built two yefcrs ago in Lower Township. Several

modifications have been made in the plans, however, because of the more rural setting here. - Greater use will be made of natural light, with more and larger windows also providing a scenic view. Books have been arriving and are in storage for the anticipated opening in late spring or early summer of 1965.

Joyride III By Libby Demp Forrest

"Mom, mom, come quick." #2 yelled. "Look who's back!" I raced to the front door and there stood a laundry bag, a pile of books, and #1 "I got a ride home for the weekend," said #1. I grabbed him and gave him a big hug. #2 son jumped up on his back and grabbed him around the " neck. "I'm so happy to see you!'' } said. "I can't believe you're home. This is wooderful." "Isn't anybody going to let me in the house?" asked «l son. IN CAME the laundry bag, the pile of books and the three of us wedging through the door all at once. "Is there anything to eat?" asked #1 once were made it into tbe hallway. "I fixed a roast for dinner," I said. J'How about that? When was the last time you ate?" "I've lost seven pounds since I started college," said #1 son. "The food is terrible," We raced to the kitchen, but «1 stopped as be came into the room. "I want to see the new kitchen floor," said #1 son. I had written to him that we finally had put down the new floor. "It looks strange," said #1 making his way across the kitchen floor toward the refrigerator. "Wierd." #1 SON OPENED UP the refrigerator and stood staring at the shelves. "What do you want?" I

asked #1. "I just want to stand here and look at the food," said #1. "It's just meat and vegetables and fruit, nothing more than that," said f2 son. . , < , "I, just like knowing h's there," said fl, s tarings I started to fix fl a roast beef sandwich. "How about ' lettuce?" I asked "Lettuce," said fl. "Tomatoes?" I asked "Tomatoes," said fl. "HOW COME YOU want vegetables in a sandwich? " asked f2. "I never realized how much I like fresh vegetables until I got to college," said fl. "College is very' educational," I said as I sliced tomatoes. "I brought home some presents," said f 1. He went to the laundry bag. dug down and took out two paper bags. I opened my bag and pulled out a tin pencil cup with the name of fl's college pressed onto it. "It's for your pencils." said fl. "It's really beautiful," I said. "I'm going to keep it *.on my desk . " fZ'S PAPER BAG had a T-shirt with tbe name of fl's college on it and a peaked cap with the college seal. "I think I'll just sleep in the shirt," said f2 son. "I don't want people to think I go to college." "That's up to you," said f 1 son, as he closed his eyes and took a bite of his shndwich.

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