N 4 35 Herald & Lantern 26 December '84 i

The Golden Edge Remember Panty Waists?

By DOROTHEA F. COOPER Do you remember when: LONG UNDERWEAR was sometimes black and folded over the ankles in a bulky lump under long black cotton stockings? PANTY WAISTS were not some wimpish individuals, but actually garments onto which drawers were buttoned and had garter tabs to hold up those long black stockings. CORSETS were laced-up boned garments that ladies wore to keep their figures in control? (I remember one night when my aunt

was dressing for a very I special affair. She held onto the bed post while I ] struggled behind her to pull the long laces tight. One of i them broke and had to be tied into a knot. My aunt wore the thing anyway, and must have been in torture as she danced all night. When she took the corsets off before going to bed, her sighs of relief could be heard all the way to the third floor. / IT WAS THE STYLE to have a boyish figure and tight, flat brassieres kept buzzums to a minimum? Lord help the girl who was

too much endowed then, and now has the sage to prove it. OPEN FLAPPING GALOSHES were THE footwear for teenagers even on sunny days? IN THE COMIC DIVISION of the New Year parade, some of the mummors wore black face and sometimes smeared some of it onto the faces of shrieking girls along the sidelines, and under skirts wore voluminous women's bloomers onto which a large red rose was strategically placed? SATURDAY MOVIE MATINEES when hordes of screaming children kissing and all that mushy stuff, as they downed tons of popcorn, peanuts with the shells strewn on the floor and the manager paced up and down the aisles, threatening to throw the culprits out bodily if they didn't behave — which they didn't and he didn't? After 14 thrilling weeks of faithful attendance, the mystery of the serial was finally revealed. BLISTERS on the hands from swinging on the iron rings in the playground,

pretending to be Tarzan ( or Jane, depending on your sex), the thrill of bending the crab on a parallel bar (the sight of which, thinking of it, must have given the voyeurs quite a turn?) VOLUMINOUS BLACK BLOOMERS at gym in which it was difficult enough to walk, much less exercise? In later years the ones in blue cotton material didn't help much either. CANDY BARS were long, thick, covered with real chocolate, filled with goodies and cost only five cents, when you could afford them? PETS didn't have neuroses or allergies, or have to be fed spec: foods (it was tough enough to feed the family members), ate leftovers from the table, lived to be a hundred and one (pet age) and were tearfully buried at last in 4he backyard? THE ANSWER to "Thank you very much" was "You're welcome" instead of "un-huh"? "OURS IS OUTSIDE" didn't refer to a Cadillac in the driveway.

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JOY'S PRAYER — Joy Heslinga at the 1st Baptist Church of Cape May Court House. The 4 %-year-old. daughter of the pastor. Rev. and Mrs. Je>rry Heslinga, she offers the universal prayer for peace.

The Evolution of Resolution

By RUTH ALCORN WANBERG Do you remember making lots of New Year's resolutions? I remember doing so. In fact, I recall my list, verbatim, because it matched exactly my weekly confession ritual which remained unchanged for 10 years; i.e.; 1. NEW YEAR RESOLUTION: I won't fight with my brothers. (In confessional: "I fought with my brothers seven times.") 2. NEW YEAR RESOLUTION: I won't lie. (In confessional "I told a lie seven times.") 3. NEW YEAR RESOLUTION: I will obey my mother and father. (In confessional: "I disobeyed my parents seven times.") EVERYTHING WAS seven times because in parochial School we were marched to confession once a week, and as I examined my conscience, "seven" seemed like an acceptable number of slips, once a day for each. That's how my New Year's resolutions were established and broken. But now, 25 years later, here I am again, re-

establishing the ritual. There has been little change. 1. NEW YEAR RESOLUTION: I will not fight with my children (nor raise my voice more than absolutely necessary). 2. NEW YEAR RESOLUTION: I will not lie (nor evade difficult questions). 0 3. NEW YEAR RESOLUTION: I will obey the laws of God and Country (until I can make some reasonable changes). IN CONFESSION now, each of these is followed, not by seven times but rather by 365 times, for without the firm hand of Sister Paul Francis, an "annual" confession is all I can accomplish. Incidentally, I added the third resolution mainly to be in the good graces of the priest and to ensure absolution. I think it also helps when I mention that I have four children, and how well my present pregnancy is going. Priests love big families and fortunately forgive fertile females their faults. Happjy New Year! (ED. NOTE: Wanberg writes from Avalon.)

Guidelines (From Page 34) a specific individual and be of a personal nature. The individual whose privacy is concerned may require an open session.); 4. the terms and conditions of an existing or proposed collective bargaining agreement, including negotiation positions; 5. matters related to the purchase, lease or acquisition of real property with public funds; 6. matters related to the setting of banking rates or the investing of public funds, provided that public disclosure could adversly affect the public interest ; 7. tatics and techniques utilized in protecting the safety and property of the public, provided that public disclosure could impair such protection , 8. investigations of voilations or possible violations of the Law; 9. pending or anticipated litigation or contract negotiations in which the public body is or may become a party; 10 matters falling within the attorney-client privilege, to the extent that confidentiality is required in order for the attorney to exercise his ethical duties as a lawyer; 1 1 . personnel matters concerning the employment of a current or prospective public employee of the public tody, except that if all employees whose rights could to adversely affected request that such matters be discussed at a public meeting, then they must to discussed in public* 12. quasi-judicial deliberations occurring after a public hearing that may result in the imposition of a civil penalty or the suspension or loss of a license or permit. May matters other than those, listed above be discussed or acted upon by a public body in closed session? Answer: . No. Only the 12 types of matters listed above may to discussed or acted upon in closed session. Since

everything else must be discussed or acted upon in public, it is advisable for public bodies to group their agenda items in two parts : one to to discussed in public, the other to to discussed in closed session. • May a public body hold a closed session on a matter which falls within one of the exceptions to the Open Public Meetings Law if another statue requires it to be held in public sessioil? Answer: No. Even if a matter falls within one of -the exceptions to the Open Public Meetings Law, it may not to discussed or acted upon in closed session if another statue requires that specific matter to to discussed or acted upon in open session. Must a public body do anything before it holds a closed session under one of the above exceptions ? Answer: Yes, before going into closed session, a public body must adopt, at an open session, a resolution stating 1 . the general nature of the subject to to discussed at the closed session, and / 2. if and when that discussion can to disclosed to the public. How does a public body determine whether it can release what happened at a closed session to the public? Answer: There is no set rule or method by which a public body can determine whether and when it should disclose to the public what transpired in closed session. The answer must depend on the circumstances of each case and the nature of the matter in question. As a very general guide, a matter should 'be released to the public when the reason for discussing and acting on it in closed session no longer exist.

loyride III By Libby Demp Forrest

The best New Year's eve I ever had was twc years ago when The Hubby and I tied the knot a few- hours before midnight. The memory of that beautiful evening makes it a virtual certainly that we can't forget an anniversary Since The Hubby and I did all the last-minute running around just before New Year's, a lot of the feeling of this time of year gets sharply refocused as another anniversary approaches. For instance, every time I pass the doors of Cape May 's City Hall, there are the Christmas wreaths back in the same place as they were two years ago when The Hubby and I fumbled our way up the steps to fill out a marriage application. EACH OF US has our own memory bank of the good times in our lives. Last year during our first anniversary The Hubby and I sent all the kids out for the evening. We shooed them out the door and planned to celebrate our anniversary privately. We got out the tape No. 1 made of the wedding ceremony; we found the picture album ; we gave each other cards. The Hubby brought out a bottle of champagne We toasted each other and^recalled the little incidents we remembered about our wedding. "What could two previously married people remember about a wedding night?" someone asked us last year. WELL, FRANKLY, plenty. Remember, I said, we were nprried on New Year's eve and that happens to to a night some people act silly. When The Hubby and I finally sped off into the night after the yedding, we made our way to a motel in .the Crest where we had made reservations for the night Reservations on New Year's eve are at a premium in Cape May County at motels that stay open through the winter. The Hubby carried me across the threshold of one of those suites a family and assorted relatives all hole up in UIU3C auiica a loiim; anu ,vu . W _.. — r* —

during a hot July week at the shore. As newlyweds are apt to do, we fell asleep soon after, lulled by the rhythms of the ocean just across the beach from the motel. At 4 a.m. we awakened to the most horrible sound — the motel fire alarm zonging through the building. The Hubby pulled on his trousers; I grabbed my raincoat and we flew out into the corridor where sleepy men in silly shorts and girls in frilly nighties sleepily made their way along the hallway. The motel owner made his way along the corridor too, to announce the whole thing was a prank and tell the guests to go back to bed. THE HUBBY AND I went back to our room. The Hubbypulled off his trousers, climbed into Bed and went back to sleep. I had trouble sleeping so I laid awake munching wedding cake. In the morning, The Hubby awakened bright and chipper while I grumped because I hadn't slept much "Did the fire alarm go off during.the night ?" he asked "Or did 1 dream the whole thing?" Thus, the marriage get off to its start Happy anniversary, Hubby — let's go to a different motel this New Year's eve.

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